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These messages waste your prospects' time and make you look old-school. Using the same overused, ineffective, outdated and irritating follow-up messages Do you want to differentiate yourself, stand out and rise above the noise? One easy, shockingly simple and sure-fire way that will put you miles ahead of many professionals in your industry is in your follow-up approach: STOP using the F‑word. Trina Leckie, relationship coach and podcast hostĮditor's Note: This story has been updated by Elite Daily Staff.Stop pestering and start profiting. Kendra Allen, founder of Break Up Bestie Breakups are emotionally exhausting, so take it one day at a time, and keep in mind that the first day is always the hardest.
Was it great? Was it horrible? Did you fight all the time? Did you see the breakup coming? Do you think the two of you are better separate than you are together? These are all things to think about, but the main thing to keep in mind is your ex and what exactly reaching out to them would do for the both of you.Įven if it would make you feel better, don't reach out if you know it would make your ex feel like you're ripping their heart out of their chest or if they've expressed that they don't want to talk to you. Whatever you decide to do, take the entirety of your relationship into account. Every situation is different, just like every relationship is different. You also want to set a date right away, because any back and forth will just prolong the hurt even more.īreakups are never one-size-fits-all sort of deals. Leckie says that if you’re the one texting, then you should be the one to offer to pick it up or drop it off. If there’s something you can’t live without that you left at your ex’s place or they left something you know is important to them, you can reach out to make it right. Sometimes, there aren’t things left unsaid, but items you forgot to take back when a relationship ends. I can come pick it up later today, if that works for you? I realize with everything happening last night, I left something at your place. To help you get started, here are some post-breakup text messages to send your ex, depending on your situation. The problem is coming up with the right things to say after a breakup. So, if you feel the need to talk to your ex, you might as well do it right away. Relationship coach and podcast host Trina Leckie agrees, saying that “the sooner you go no contact, the sooner you can both start to heal and move forward.” However, she adds, “If you need a couple things cleared up or if you need your things, sure, text the next day.”
As Break Up Bestie founder Kendra Allen tells Elite Daily, it may be better not to text your ex at all, because “regardless of what side of the break up you were on, you either owe yourself space or owe the other person space.”
Of course, it’s super important to put yourself in your ex’s shoes and think about how you would feel if they reached out to you. But how do you know what to say after a breakup? The best after breakup text messages tend to convey empathy without pity, care without romantic love, and concern without hovering.
If you’re wondering how they’re holding up - whether you were on the giving or receiving end of the breakup - sometimes it's OK to reach out and check in. Even if you’re the one ending the relationship, it’s normal to have residual feelings for your ex, especially if you were together for a long time. But not every breakup needs to be a bad one. Breaking up is hard to do, especially if you still care about your ex.